tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931597080577373530.post277105563688795147..comments2024-01-07T01:43:55.486+00:00Comments on Words That Can Only Be Your Own: The language of lovejbistheinitialhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17868282285690501258noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931597080577373530.post-32575258726963024342013-03-21T13:11:22.567+00:002013-03-21T13:11:22.567+00:00Thanks! Sad to say, but I think is someone had to...Thanks! Sad to say, but I think is someone had told me when I was sixteen, "this love won't last, it's just a passing infatuation," I wouldn't have believed them.jbistheinitialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17868282285690501258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931597080577373530.post-7111569796757359432013-03-21T13:07:35.783+00:002013-03-21T13:07:35.783+00:00Awesome post Janet. It has also got me thinking a...Awesome post Janet. It has also got me thinking as I have been struggling with a piece I am writing at the moment about falling in love which I am directing at my niece Amy, who is 16. You are not cynical<br /><br />“A cynic is a person searching for an honest man, with a stolen lantern” <br />― Edgar A. Shoaff<br /><br />I love the honesty in this post (did you steal my lantern?)<br /><br />Que sera sera (showing my age)JENNYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098666035423087050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931597080577373530.post-39545303203955631462013-03-20T20:19:06.979+00:002013-03-20T20:19:06.979+00:00It's one of my favourite endings to a song, th...It's one of my favourite endings to a song, that. Such a clever little aside. <br /><br />And yes, you're right, when it's true love that person will always be with you regardless of whether or not you 'move on' once they're gone. I think, sadly, that my previous relationships only remained with me in very negative ways. I know I have chosen a lot better this time!jbistheinitialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17868282285690501258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931597080577373530.post-41757804178799771752013-03-20T20:07:59.969+00:002013-03-20T20:07:59.969+00:00Hmmm. I think if I wasn't in relationship with...Hmmm. I think if I wasn't in relationship with 'the one' then I'd probably agree completely! And whilst I don't go for all that written in the stars/soul mate stuff exactly, I can't help but feel that there was some amazing coincidence/timing, or whisper it, fate involved in how we met.<br /><br />I now look back at previous relationships and see them for what they were. But, y'know, hindsight and all that. A cynic might say that it's because of the now etc, but I know I'm not kidding myself. I do sometimes compare now with how I felt in previous relationships, which is how I can come to this conclusion. Our wedding anniversary is coming up soon - only six years, but I still feel the same as I did when we first met. It's on a similar level to bereavement of someone close to you - for example, you can't and don't want to imagine life without your parents, but when it happens you do survive, move on, but those people who get closest to you will always be there in some form or hang-up or other.<br /><br />But to add to Mr Minchin above, there's also Damien Rice's 'The Blower's Daughter' (used in 'Closer' - now there's a film about love!). He spends most of the song saying how he can't take his eyes off of someone, before ending with -<br /><br />I can't take my mind off you<br />I can't take my mind off you<br />I can't take my mind<br />my mind my mind<br />'Til I find somebody new<br /><br />'nuff said.<br /><br />Graham WAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931597080577373530.post-85126343694318545582013-03-20T20:01:05.456+00:002013-03-20T20:01:05.456+00:00Haha, I like that! And after all, Tim Minchin is ...Haha, I like that! And after all, Tim Minchin is the guylinered, rock & roll version of you Alex.jbistheinitialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17868282285690501258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931597080577373530.post-68885198028879816602013-03-20T19:29:44.796+00:002013-03-20T19:29:44.796+00:00Most of the truest insights into life and the huma...Most of the truest insights into life and the human condition have come to me through comedy, or songs, or both. My favourite musical comedians has to be Tim Minchin, who has a particularly deep and thorough understanding of this subject in his song "If I didn't have you", which begins thus:<br /><br />If I didn't have you to hold me tight (If I didn't have you)<br />If I didn't have you to lie with at night (When I'm feeling blue)<br />If I didn't have you to share my sighs (Share my sighs)<br />And to kiss me and dry my tears when I cry<br /><br />Well I really think that I would... <br />... Have somebody else<br /><br />Enjoy the full thing on YouTube here:<br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KynIKjRwqDI<br />Alex Heightonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16695617486287796280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931597080577373530.post-58184909930472268312013-03-20T16:55:00.611+00:002013-03-20T16:55:00.611+00:00Yep, seems like you have a hidden romantic streak ...Yep, seems like you have a hidden romantic streak after all Helen!jbistheinitialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17868282285690501258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931597080577373530.post-43096533557412638722013-03-20T16:54:30.571+00:002013-03-20T16:54:30.571+00:00"True love is quieter, it is appreciation... ..."True love is quieter, it is appreciation... and wanting to be a better version of yourself" WOW! This is the most beautiful and true description of love. jbistheinitialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17868282285690501258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931597080577373530.post-4606111737106630372013-03-20T16:08:00.294+00:002013-03-20T16:08:00.294+00:00I once read on Making nice in the midwest (or her ...I once read on Making nice in the midwest (or her old blog) something Mandi's dad told her when she met her husband - that there is no such thing as the one/a soulmate out there, love is two people deciding to commit to each other and thats what makes a relationship work (or something along those lines!) That sentiment appeals to my practical and not very romantic self!<br /><br />I love this post and I agree with so much of it. I was so chuffed for you that you mentioned the L word in a previous post! Perhaps I am a big softie after all! xHelenhttp://www.usingmyloaf.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931597080577373530.post-57606015906396392082013-03-20T15:14:36.814+00:002013-03-20T15:14:36.814+00:00Such an interesting piece. I think the problem wi...Such an interesting piece. I think the problem with love is that it has been 'hollywoodized'. The idea of one true love seems false to me too. It puts a lot of pressure on relationships and makes people unhappy because there aren't grand gestures everyday or love songs being written. I think theoretically you could live happily with just about anyone if you have enough in common and don't want to kill them. I think true love is quieter, it is appreciation, understanding, caring about what the other person thinks and wanting to be a better version of yourself. So perhaps love is one way of becoming "better", but I think there are as many routes to that as 'fish in the sea'. <br /><br />That said I have been with my boyfriend for over 8 years and we are recently engaged and I love him immensely and I feel my life would be less without him. I don't *think* I would die without him though, as sad as I would be.Michelle Yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08125331936181831527noreply@blogger.com